My wife pointed out to me yesterday that I haven’t spent time with her lately. She’s sort of right and that bothers me. It just kind of happened. The kids were doing a summer school arts program and I have been working nights. When the weekends showed up, they were quickly filled with play dates and meeting up with friends. My wife has also been busy getting ready for an Anime Convention this upcoming weekend. As much as it sounds like excuses, we are now determined to have some one-on-one time AFTER this weekend’s convention.
Our kids have received the majority of my time over the past few weeks. I wanted to take the family out to the Drive-In last weekend, but my wife was still swamped with work so it ended up just the kids and I. I’m sure she would rather have been with us lounging in the back of the Pathfinder eating popcorn cuddled under a blanket than having to work. Running a home business isn’t Monday to Friday 9-5. It’s evenings, weekends, and any “free time” that shows up. It helped that I took the kids away a few times this week so that my wife could work.
Being friends, being a couple, being parents, being a family are all the different positions we fill on a regular basis. One is not more important than the other. They are all equally valued in our lives. It’s a good thing that one of us acknowledges when we need more time together, just the two of us. I don’t want it to suddenly end up being a couple of weeks, or a few months or even years that we don’t spend time together. My wife is very important to me and I’d like to think I’m important to her.
Remember to make the time for your significant other more often. You’d be surprised how much can change in a person’s life over the course of a few days, let alone weeks.
Next week we shall plan a date for ourselves. Maybe a walk, perhaps out to a coffee shop, maybe dinner and a movie. Heck, maybe we can even enjoy some “Netflix and Chill” as they say. Whatever it is, it will be fantastic because we will do it together as a couple.