Where does the time go? Our son is 14 today. Every year I write about him on his birthday, as I do with each of our children. Okay, I write about our children more than just on their birthdays. But on their Birthday, it’s always about them. Here’s a quick snippet about him and his day.
He’s quite the charmer. He knows how to make people happy through his kind acts. Theory also has impeccable manners and is respectful of everyone. It makes me happy to see that our parenting has paid off. Plus he has two wonderful big sisters who have steered him towards being the great kid that he is.
Today was a fairly subdued celebration. We had a big breakfast, followed by opening of gifts. My wife and I finally purchased the trick scooter he wanted. Later this evening, we will be attending Back To The Future at The Twilight Drive In. It’s a sold out show and they predict rain. That will be fun seeing how to cram three teenagers and two adults into a small suv!
But as far as Birthdays go, this one is pretty good for him. And he seemed very happy with what he got. Especially the handmade gifts from his sisters. (A painting and a Star Wars pillow).
Happy 14th Birthday Theory! May the Force Be With You!
This Saturday is our son’s 14th birthday. With the world being what it is, no party will be happening. But we still want to make it special for him.
It just so happens that our local Drive-In Theater The Twilight Drive-In is playing retro movies. This is due to the fact that the movie studios are not releasing anything new. The Drive-In allows for social distancing in our cars as a family. Which is perfect. The film series this week? Back to the Future.
Our family has always loved the Back to the Future series. Back in 2010 at The Calgary Expo, we met a couple who built replica DeLorean and was taking donations for Parkinson’s Research. We took some photos that created the start of some fantastic memories.
Fast forward to October 2015. We are now in California at another convention… our son decided to cosplay as Marty McFly. He had a great time taking photos and pretending to be Marty.
This Saturday will be a fun night of watching a double feature. BTTF and BTTF 2. When I was younger, I rented Back to the Future 2 on VHS when it first came out. I watched it 9 times in a row during the one day rental we had. Needless to say, I enjoyed the film.
So come on out to the Drive In the Saturday and walk past to say Happy Birthday to our son!
Today is our daughter’s sixteenth birthday. Unfortunately with the world being the way it is, we are unable to make this birthday an extravagant one. The plan was to take her out to get her “L” so that she could begin to learn driving. We would also have gone for dinner at our favorite sushi restaurant- Nikko Sushi- but it’s just not in the cards for today.
And that’s totally fine. Because we have our health. And we have our memories of her previous birthdays. Each of them unique in their own way.
One year we took her to Build-A-Bear. Another time she was on an airplane flying back from Hawaii. We’ve been in the car on a road trip to another province. We’ve been at a few different conventions. A couple of times we went out bowling. One time she was competing at a Cheer competition.
But my favorite memories were spent at home. Where we made her a cake, gave her gifts that were created with love, and did the things she wanted to do. Like watch a movie or play a game. This year is no different. There is a great joy that we share in being home as a family.
So today, as our daughter celebrates her 16th Birthday, the sun will be shining down on her as she fills our lives with happiness.
March 15,1976: A self proclaimed hero was born in Halifax Nova Scotia. He came screaming into the world not knowing what was in store for him. Except naps. Lots of naps. Little did he know that his adventures would continue to the other coast of the country.
Here he is, 44 years later. A hero to his family, friends and coworkers. His superpowers include hyper kindness, magnified positivity, ultra attentive listening, and height. All of which he tries to showcase regularly. All of which makes him more than just a man.
He has a loving wife and kids. A good job with good pay. Friends who reach out and show that they care as well. Looking at his life- he should be happy. And he is. Today is his birthday and it marks one more revolution around the sun. One more notch on his superhero belt.
I couldn’t feel super if it wasn’t for everybody in my life. Thank you everyone for always being gracious and fun. that’s the best gift I can get on a daily basis.
For my wife’s birthday, I took her out for lunch this afternoon at a place called The Raving Gamer Bistro in Langley, BC.
It’s the perfect style of place for my wife and I. It’s locally owned and operated. The menu serves locally-sourced ingredients from many of the places that I love to visit in Langley and nearby.
I enjoyed the Three’s Company Grilled Cheese: Golden Ears cheddar & gouda on Langley’s A Bread Affair’s Three’s Company bread.
My wife ate the Raving Water Buffalo Burger: a house-made patty of local water buffalo with bread and butter pickles, fresh tomatoes, red onion, gouda from Golden Ears Cheese Crafters, double smoked bacon and a house-made Russian dressing.
Both of us opted for the house-cut fries with “butta-shoyu” & Japanese spice; and a local beer to wash it all down.
During our lunch, we had a chance to enjoy some one on one time while playing board games. The selection of games to play was extensive. After our meal, we browsed through some of the games for sale. These aren’t your typical Monopoly variations or poker games. Many of the games I had never heard of. But when I asked the staff about games- they had knowledgeable answers.
We had a nice quiet lunch- we were the only two customers in there. It sounds like they are much busier in the evening time, especially on the weekends. I highly recommend visiting the Bistro. But be prepared to spend time and money! We were there for about an hour and a half and spent $100. But we also picked up a game that we have been wanting for some time now. So it was worthwhile investment for the future of our fun!
I enjoy baking cookies. I think I’ve mastered the art of deliciousness in each and every batch. My family and coworkers enjoy sampling my treats. And I really enjoy sharing them.
Today I made ginger snaps. And just like every other cookie I bake- they turned out perfect. I also baked a cake for my wife’s birthday tomorrow. Cakes for me are easy. I only ever do the boxed cakes. Quick and easy. I usually have a variety of mixes on hand because we use them as a Waffle batter substitute. Best idea ever!
However, I am not talented at icing cakes. I understand the concept behind butter cream icing, crumb coats and piping tubes. I can just never express in physical form what my mind is trying to achieve.
Our son’s birthday cake earlier this year looked tasty. But it wasn’t exactly what I was aiming for. It did the trick though. A a sweet dessert treat for a quick celebration. The same goes for my wife’s cake for tomorrow. My heart is in it, but my skills just aren’t there.
So I’ll just bake more cookies later this month. Those are always a hit.
Today would’ve been my father’s birthday. Over the years I’ve been trying different ways to remember the good in him. Which has been difficult when the bad memories were more impactful. From September 19 (My father’s birthday) to November 25th (the date he passed away) I’m not a pleasant person to be around at home. I’ve been consciously making different choices in my life to try and be a better person each and every day.
For two years in a row I grew a beard. It made me look like him. I was thinking of making it a tradition, but last year my family pushed hard and made me feel bad that I grew facial hair. I’m not sure why, but I’d rather not have bitterness thrown at me from those whom I care about. So no beard planned this year.
Last year I did “Sober September” and this year I’m trying as well. I had a couple of beers once this month and felt instant shame in myself for being weak. The reason is my father drank heavily and I worry that the trait runs deep in my genes. Especially when I look back at most of my Instagram posts and see a lot of beer in my hands.
Obviously I’d love to say that I am in control of my drinking, but am I? I come home from work and would like a beer with dinner. I have days off and want to see friends which generally brings up drinking. Maybe this year I’ll try not drinking from September 19 to November 25th. Do the complete opposite of what my father would do. Maybe only then can I push the negative out of my mind and bring out the positive memories.
I sure don’t want to end up like him- sour, angry and dead by age 58. That doesn’t appeal to me. I want to be a better person.
I know I’m a better person. I just need to remind myself from time to time.
Our oldest daughter turned 17 yesterday. With it came another turning point into adulthood and a fantastic dinner with some friends of ours.
Starting off the day, she wanted a piercing through the cartilage on the upper part of both ears. So we stopped at a place in Calgary called Tribal Expression. The store was clean; the staff were professional and courteous. They also offered a reference to a piercing location near our home- one province over- which eased my mind a bit more.
During the process I still got to be “Daddy” as she wanted to hold my hand while getting the piercings done. That made me feel good inside. Plus, our daughter is happy with her new hoops she got installed for her birthday. Oh, and I was $148 lighter in my bank account.
Afterwards, we stopped at the nearby Starbucks in order to get the very “Instagram Worthy” Tie Dyed Frappuccino. This gave my girls a chance to share pics online and have a good bonding moment while I recovered from the cost and noticeable perforations that are now in my daughter’s ear lobes.
Later in the evening we meet up with some old friends in Calgary at a restaurant called Gorilla Whale. There were hugs and stories to be shared as we all tried our best to contain our excitement of meeting up again. We love these two and they have been long standing friends of ours since we first started going to conventions.
Not only was the company great, but the food at the restaurant was a fantastic mix of Japanese and Western creativity. I opted for the Godzilla burger- which contained wagyu beef, foie gras and unagi. (Cow, duck liver, and eel). The food was awesome and reasonably priced-ish. (I think I’ve spent more money on a regular excursion for sushi at our regular joint.)
All-in-all it was a good day of our daughter experiencing the joys of adulthood. Treating yo’self, sending time with old friends, and enjoying a night out at a fancier restaurant than usual. I hope she continues to enjoy and experience life to its fullest.
Okay, enough alliteration. Our son is having another birthday. This time he is officially entering his teenage years. Over the past year I noticed something about his personality. He has been enjoying taking selfies with me.
This has made me really happy. He enjoys trying to be like me in many ways. Which I am flattered by, but it also has made me more self conscious about my actions and behavior. Our son has started to form a sense of humor similar to mine in many ways. But he also enjoys clowning around in his own style.
Our doofus of a son is a great kid. I hope he enjoys his day of silly antics and fun.
Happy Birthday Theory!
Ps. Here’s the card your mom was going to buy for you…
On Sunday, our daughter had a small birthday party. She planned the party about a week prior and decided to hit the local five pin bowling alley in Aldergrove. This is the third birthday in a row that she has done bowling.
Last year she had a great time with her friends out bowling. Same the year before when she turned Lucky 13. It seems our daughter enjoys this sport.
We arrived and the alley was like a ghost town. Considering the only other bowling alley had shut down about a year ago… you’d think the place would be busier. It also made me realize that this sport is not the most glamorous- but still very amusing.
I’m glad to have shown our daughter the joy of bowling when she was younger. I’m also happy she is creating her own birthday traditions.
After a couple rounds, we stopped for cake and gifts. It seems that our daughter has a great group of friends who love to be silly. A Hello Kitty cake and lots of laughs were had.
I wonder if next year she will do the same thing… if the bowling alley still exists…
Another trip around the sun has completed for our daughter Darwin. She turned 15 today. As much as I still want her to remain our little girl, I also know that she will be growing into an adult over the next few years.
Looking back at some of my previous blogs this year, I’ve noticed that we have shared some fantastic memories together.
Watching her navigate her way into adulthood is interesting to say the least. She has goals and aspirations for her career and is constantly getting straight “A”s in order to accomplish this. She’s also inspired by my wife’s former fashion and has taken a liking to her old clothes. My wife is happy to see these clothes get a new lease on life.
Socially, our daughter has a ton of friends. She is kind to everyone she meets and is always ready to give the benefit of the doubt when it comes to awkward interactions. Which is a positive notion but realistically speaking will likely change as she grows. I just don’t want her kindheartedness to diminish.
I hope Darwin continues to enjoy life with a positive helping attitude and a warm hug when needed.
My wife likes to remind me that for her birthday in the year 2000 that she baked her own cake. That was the first year we were together. I haven’t made that mistake since.
Last night I baked her a cake. Straight outta the box! I know I could bake a cake from scratch, but sometimes those packaged cakes are an easy (and cheap!) treat.
I left the cake to cool overnight. Later today I will be frosting it. I’m not planning anything elaborate- just extra icing! Because that’s what my wife requested. And since it’s her birthday, I figured I’d better do what she requested.
I don’t want to be reminded for the next 18 years that I didn’t do that. Once is enough.
I am baking the cake with love in mind. I do care about my wife’s happiness! Happy Birthday Honey! May you enjoy your day!
Today our oldest daughter hit that milestone of turning 16. As per her wishes, we did not make a big fanfare of it. She doesn’t like many pictures to be taken, but when we do she has a beautiful smile that makes others happy as well. Random also woke up early today to bake her own cake.
Besides being a good cook and baker, she is growing up in many other aspects. She can now try for a driver’s license! She’s been studying hard and I think she will get the learner’s license without fail when she goes in this week.
She makes me proud in so many ways. She will continue to be an amazing woman as she grows up. We love her immensely!
Happy Birthday Random!
You are our answer to Life, the Universe and Everything!
My son is turning 12 today. That’s a dozen years of having a mini me around.
It’s uncanny how much he looks and acts like I did/do. Because of this, I can see how much my father got annoyed with me.
But I also love that my son looks up to me as a role model. Sometimes I need to see myself through his eyes in order to be a better father.
He is definitely a lot like I was as a child. A love of LEGO, playing outdoors, video games and movies are all things I enjoyed as well. I never knew how much I wanted a son until we had him. He is one of the greatest joys I have in my life.
Everyone who is alive has a birthday. However, not every birthday gets a grandiose celebration. And that’s ok.
Today is our middle child’s 14th Birthday. We are just doing a casual dinner and giving her a couple of gifts. No big party or anything. Just a little bit of recognition. Next weekend she wants to take a couple of her friends bowling. I’ll be taking her because my wife doesn’t like bowling. A carload of young teens laughing and singing is always a treat.
I hope she understands that not every birthday is a crazy gala event. Sometimes that’s hard to explain this to a teenager/ child, especially when movies and tv shows portray things differently.
I think her birthday will still be special in its own way. It’s having her around that is the best gift. She always makes us smile and laugh. These first fourteen years have just flown by. I still remember her being so tiny that I could cradle her on the length of my arm. I miss that little baby some days. But I love who she is growing up to be.
Yesterday was my birthday. It was perfect. My family did exactly what I wished for- nothing.
Well, not exactly “nothing”. They took me out for sushi dinner. Then they gave me 42 homemade cupcakes. I received a few bags of candy with 42 pieces in each. Then we went to the drive-in movie to watch “Black Panther”.
It was a perfect birthday. Exactly what I wished for. No big party. No extravagant gifts. Just my wife and kids having fun.
The answer to the Great Question… of Life,the Universe and Everything… is…
Today I turn Forty Two. My life has been pretty darned good so far. This year I am planning on making the most of my 42. First is my bucket list trip to Tokyo. I’ve always wanted to travel there since my childhood for many different reasons.
Next will be to meet a couple of my childhood icons at the Calgary Expo at the end of April: Paul Reubens and Wil Wheaton. I dressed as Pee-Wee one Halloween and I loved it. I almost had the opportunity to meet Wil Wheaton, but I chickened out. Not this time! I even wrote about it two years ago: One Day.
I’m also blessed with extra vacation time off this year. I am going to try and make the most of my time by relaxing and traveling. There is so much beauty to see and experience in the world. I may even venture off on my own without the family. Just because.
Here I am, age 42. It’s an important year to me. Not 40 or 45 just because they end in a five or zero. No midlife crisis planned either. Just enjoying 42 years of the earth’s rotation. Especially the last 17 years. Life has been full of off-set plans, like being married on a Tuesday just because. Or naming our first born daughter Random from “The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy” series.
42 years of just trying to make my world a better place.
“Is that all you’ve got to show for seven and a half million years’ work?”
Today would’ve been my father’s birthday. I recently found some of my old musings on an old hard drive. I wrote this in May of 2009:
Since the death of my father, I’ve been searching for ways to remember him. There were very few pictures taken of him and he didn’t leave many possessions behind that had any emotional attachment. I have memories of experiences and moments, but none that can stick out as who my father really was. My father seemed like an angry individual most of the time that he was around.
When he was at home, the smell of stale cigarettes and beer hung on his breath every evening and weekend like cheap cologne. Most Saturdays he golfed with his Czech friends and on Sundays he would go in to work or lay on the couch watching golf games which he had taped from the days before. During the week, he often left early for work and stayed late, only to arrive as dinner was ending. Only twice in his lifetime did he go on a family vacation with us. That was due to the fact that his Czech golfing buddies had arranged a ski trip with their families, and my father was coaxed in to going by my mother.
That was as far as I got. Every day a bit more of the bad slips away from my memory. It’s getting to a point that I only remember a few of his quirks.
My personal favorite was when he was in a good mood he would wiggle his ears. I remember always trying to learn it myself. The realization came to me as a preteen-that when my father was a child, he had far more free time to do that than I did. My generation was the start of the entertainment generation. TV, video games, movies, and computers were taking over. No time to learn little traits like making my ears dance.
As I get older, I am glad that the positive memories are coming forward and the negative ones are disappearing. A part of me doesn’t want to write those negative stories anymore. It’s best to stay positive as life goes on.
Happy birthday dad. I do miss the idea of how great you once were. May you be in peace.
Today is our daughter’s 15th birthday. My wife and I offered for her to do whatever she wanted. She could have a party, go out with friends, go shopping, pretty much whatever a 15 year old girl would want to do.
Here is what she chose:
Bake and ice her own cake.
Go for sushi.
It’s really convenient that she is a low maintenance child. She enjoys a calm & relaxed lifestyle. She’s content to read a book or paint a picture. She’s not as outgoing as I am, so I need to remember and respect that. Today is her birthday. She could’ve done whatever she wanted. She chose to be around the house and spend time with us as a family. Her wish to do nothing out of the ordinary was granted.
Today is my son’s 11th Birthday. And as usual, we have a jam packed full day. But we will make sure he knows how loved he is.
He had a full day of school and will be home only briefly. My daughters have to perform at a concert tonight. My wife will be watching them. I have to work the nightshift. During that time, my son will be take out for a dinner by his grandparents. So during the short time I get to see my son this afternoon- we will have some cake and give him some gifts.
We knew in advance that today would be hectic. My son had his birthday party on May the 4th- Star Wars Day. He had a great time with his friends. As the years go on, the schedules are getting more full. But what time we do have together as a family, we always make the most of it. That makes me happy.
So have a Happy Birthday Theory! Another year of enjoying life is behind you, and many more are yet to come!
Our daughter turned 13 today. Last year I wrote about how wonderful she is. Read about her Here in case you forgot.
Six teens playing in an otherwise empty bowling alley.
This year she celebrated her birthday by taking a few of her friends bowling yesterday. (Probably because we went last month for my birthday and I wrote a blog about it.) After bowling we went back to our place for pizza and the girls had a sleepover in our theater room. Noisy, giggly pre-teen/teenage girls up all night goofing off made for a quiet morning after. When they woke up- I made them all birthday cake waffles- using cake mix instead of waffle batter BEST IDEA EVER. The afternoon became quiet as our daughter’s friends all left the house and we cleaned up.
For dinner we went out as a family to our favorite sushi restaurant: Nikko Sushi. We go there for everyone’s birthday. The owners are quite surprised at how much sushi my kids will eat. But the owners have watched all three out our children grow up. The restaurant opened a few months before our first daughter was born. We have been going ever since they opened. In fact, April 14th, 2004- the night before Darwin was born, we went there for dinner. We have always been loyal customers and the food is exactly what we expect every time. Delicious.
We came home after dinner and realized it was just after 6:00pm. The birthday girl wanted to play a board game. So she chose Monopoly. Today was probably the only day she would ever have been able to convince my wife to play. My wife despises Monopoly so much so that this was also the first time I’ve ever played with her as well. Sad part? My wife slaughtered us all. And wasn’t even kind about it. She destroyed her son by taking his Boardwalk as payment one turn. The only property that our ten year old was proud to have.
After our rousing game of Monopoly, we enjoyed the cake that our oldest made for her sister as a gift for her birthday. Earlier today as the cake was being iced- more icing was being sampled than used it seemed. Because at the table, the sides of the cake were lacking some icing… But the artwork was exactly what our daughter wanted.
A big Happy Thirteenth Birthday to our little Darwin Petra! She is a wonderful little lady with a beautiful personality that has earned her some really close friends.
We love you Dee-Dee. We are lucky to have you as our little girl.
I have survived 41 years on this planet. I didn’t think it was going to be possible.
I was born with a lung defect and had a portion of my left lung removed by age 2. I then suffered numerous earaches as a child.
At age 3, my father left me alone in our car and I had climbed over to the driver’s seat and proceed to pretend how to drive. I engaged the car into reverse and backed straight out of a parking lot across a four lane street into a ditch. Unscathed.
Before age 4- I ran away from my mother while at an airport. Terror ran through her veins as I snuck between concrete barriers past the security. I wonder if kids could get away with that nowadays?
Later that year, I ran away from home with my dog. We made it about half a block away. My mother never noticed until she saw me in my pjs in the street.
By age 5 I had tubes inserted into my eardrums to drain fluids that had accumulated causing great distress to me. Due to all of those lovely ear infections. Two years later, they did it again. Hospitals were like a second home now.
Lots of scars, and a dislocated elbow joined me as I went from my childhood into my early teenage years.
Fast forward to age 17. I got my driver’s license and proceed to get numerous speeding tickets and traffic violations. At age 19, a car ran a red light hitting and spinning the minivan I was driving 90° and facing the opposite way that I was intending. I ended up in an ambulance at the hospital with only minor wounds to my head. As well as a written off vehicle.
Years of hijinks and bad choices lasted me until age 24. Then I met my wife and my life changed. Even though my grandfather and my father both died that same year. I thought the universe was out to get the Havelka Men.
I honestly never thought I’d live past age 35 when I was younger. But here I am. Starting another monumental decade of life.
Today is my wife’s birthday. I have often spoken of her in my blog posts. I even raved about her on Mother’s Day. So today is another special day to celebrate all things Lee-Anne!
Every year my wife has her birthday on December 6th. It never changes. That makes it easy to remember. In the past I have done my best to show her how much I value her and how much I love her. From dinners to hand made gifts and everything outside that spectrum, here is a list of some of the more memorable birthdays I have tried to give her:
Last year I made her a gift of a record cut into the shape of an old 45 adapter to celebrate her turning 45. It was challenging to say the least, but I think she was happy with the results. Probably because I paid attention to one of her favorite things and found an old copy of “The Sound Of Music” at a thrift store to use.
Six years ago, I was getting a chip on the windshield of our minivan repaired on the morning of her birthday. I was browsing online while I waited and found an SUV for sale, so I went to look at it. Needless to say, my wife got a new car for her 40th Birthday that year. It was easy to get her to agree since she absolutely despised the minivan since we first purchased it years prior.
Now, originally on her 40th Birthday, I had made her a hand drawn picture of her favorite place to view from when we visited Disneyland (we have a bench that we sit at every time we go there to watch the Pixar Parade). A new SUV was great, but the real gift was the one I made for her that year.
For her 35th birthday, I had us picked up in a limo and taken to the local airport. She took her first (and only) flying lesson that day. She flew us through the mountains and back to the coastline. Afterwards, the limo took us around to see the Christmas light displays.
Sharing experiences with my wife is what I really enjoy. I also love making her birthdays a little more special as each year passes. We have spent many years together now, and I really enjoy having fun with her.
Happy Birthday Lee-Anne! I hope you have another fantastic year! Love you.