Today would’ve been my father’s birthday. Over the years I’ve been trying different ways to remember the good in him. Which has been difficult when the bad memories were more impactful. From September 19 (My father’s birthday) to November 25th (the date he passed away) I’m not a pleasant person to be around at home. I’ve been consciously making different choices in my life to try and be a better person each and every day.
For two years in a row I grew a beard. It made me look like him. I was thinking of making it a tradition, but last year my family pushed hard and made me feel bad that I grew facial hair. I’m not sure why, but I’d rather not have bitterness thrown at me from those whom I care about. So no beard planned this year.
Last year I did “Sober September” and this year I’m trying as well. I had a couple of beers once this month and felt instant shame in myself for being weak. The reason is my father drank heavily and I worry that the trait runs deep in my genes. Especially when I look back at most of my Instagram posts and see a lot of beer in my hands.
Obviously I’d love to say that I am in control of my drinking, but am I? I come home from work and would like a beer with dinner. I have days off and want to see friends which generally brings up drinking. Maybe this year I’ll try not drinking from September 19 to November 25th. Do the complete opposite of what my father would do. Maybe only then can I push the negative out of my mind and bring out the positive memories.
I sure don’t want to end up like him- sour, angry and dead by age 58. That doesn’t appeal to me. I want to be a better person.
I know I’m a better person. I just need to remind myself from time to time.
Our oldest daughter turned 17 yesterday. With it came another turning point into adulthood and a fantastic dinner with some friends of ours.
Starting off the day, she wanted a piercing through the cartilage on the upper part of both ears. So we stopped at a place in Calgary called Tribal Expression. The store was clean; the staff were professional and courteous. They also offered a reference to a piercing location near our home- one province over- which eased my mind a bit more.
During the process I still got to be “Daddy” as she wanted to hold my hand while getting the piercings done. That made me feel good inside. Plus, our daughter is happy with her new hoops she got installed for her birthday. Oh, and I was $148 lighter in my bank account.
Afterwards, we stopped at the nearby Starbucks in order to get the very “Instagram Worthy” Tie Dyed Frappuccino. This gave my girls a chance to share pics online and have a good bonding moment while I recovered from the cost and noticeable perforations that are now in my daughter’s ear lobes.
Later in the evening we meet up with some old friends in Calgary at a restaurant called Gorilla Whale. There were hugs and stories to be shared as we all tried our best to contain our excitement of meeting up again. We love these two and they have been long standing friends of ours since we first started going to conventions.
Not only was the company great, but the food at the restaurant was a fantastic mix of Japanese and Western creativity. I opted for the Godzilla burger- which contained wagyu beef, foie gras and unagi. (Cow, duck liver, and eel). The food was awesome and reasonably priced-ish. (I think I’ve spent more money on a regular excursion for sushi at our regular joint.)
All-in-all it was a good day of our daughter experiencing the joys of adulthood. Treating yo’self, sending time with old friends, and enjoying a night out at a fancier restaurant than usual. I hope she continues to enjoy and experience life to its fullest.
Oh, and Happy Birthday Random!
On Sunday, our daughter had a small birthday party. She planned the party about a week prior and decided to hit the local five pin bowling alley in Aldergrove. This is the third birthday in a row that she has done bowling.
Last year she had a great time with her friends out bowling. Same the year before when she turned Lucky 13. It seems our daughter enjoys this sport.
We arrived and the alley was like a ghost town. Considering the only other bowling alley had shut down about a year ago… you’d think the place would be busier. It also made me realize that this sport is not the most glamorous- but still very amusing.
I’m glad to have shown our daughter the joy of bowling when she was younger. I’m also happy she is creating her own birthday traditions.
After a couple rounds, we stopped for cake and gifts. It seems that our daughter has a great group of friends who love to be silly. A Hello Kitty cake and lots of laughs were had.
I wonder if next year she will do the same thing… if the bowling alley still exists…
Another trip around the sun has completed for our daughter Darwin. She turned 15 today. As much as I still want her to remain our little girl, I also know that she will be growing into an adult over the next few years.
Looking back at some of my previous blogs this year, I’ve noticed that we have shared some fantastic memories together.
In October, we were out hunting for a Halloween Costume.
We enjoyed last summer’s Bike ride around Barnston Island.
I’ve also noticed that she loves to have fun just like I do. Take last month’s Extreme Blanket Fort or our attempt at an Escape Room.
Watching her navigate her way into adulthood is interesting to say the least. She has goals and aspirations for her career and is constantly getting straight “A”s in order to accomplish this. She’s also inspired by my wife’s former fashion and has taken a liking to her old clothes. My wife is happy to see these clothes get a new lease on life.
Socially, our daughter has a ton of friends. She is kind to everyone she meets and is always ready to give the benefit of the doubt when it comes to awkward interactions. Which is a positive notion but realistically speaking will likely change as she grows. I just don’t want her kindheartedness to diminish.
I hope Darwin continues to enjoy life with a positive helping attitude and a warm hug when needed.
Happy Birthday Darwin!
You’re pretty amazing!
I have reached a milestone. Where today is the youngest I will ever be again and the oldest I have ever been. Actually, the milestone I’m talking about is making it past 42.
42: The answer to life, the universe and everything.
All of which was solved last year. I discovered a part of myself that I never knew existed: I want to travel more and see this great planet of ours.
The rest of my time on earth is just bonus fun now. Fun that will keep me laughing and living life to the fullest.
Thank you to everyone who wished me a Happy Birthday. I have felt the love from all of those who I have had an opportunity to reach out to at some point in my existence.
My wife likes to remind me that for her birthday in the year 2000 that she baked her own cake. That was the first year we were together. I haven’t made that mistake since.
Last night I baked her a cake. Straight outta the box! I know I could bake a cake from scratch, but sometimes those packaged cakes are an easy (and cheap!) treat.
I left the cake to cool overnight. Later today I will be frosting it. I’m not planning anything elaborate- just extra icing! Because that’s what my wife requested. And since it’s her birthday, I figured I’d better do what she requested.
I don’t want to be reminded for the next 18 years that I didn’t do that. Once is enough.
I am baking the cake with love in mind. I do care about my wife’s happiness! Happy Birthday Honey! May you enjoy your day!
And your cake!
Today our oldest daughter hit that milestone of turning 16. As per her wishes, we did not make a big fanfare of it. She doesn’t like many pictures to be taken, but when we do she has a beautiful smile that makes others happy as well. Random also woke up early today to bake her own cake.
Besides being a good cook and baker, she is growing up in many other aspects. She can now try for a driver’s license! She’s been studying hard and I think she will get the learner’s license without fail when she goes in this week.
She makes me proud in so many ways. She will continue to be an amazing woman as she grows up. We love her immensely!
Happy Birthday Random!
You are our answer to Life, the Universe and Everything!
My son is turning 12 today. That’s a dozen years of having a mini me around.
It’s uncanny how much he looks and acts like I did/do. Because of this, I can see how much my father got annoyed with me.
But I also love that my son looks up to me as a role model. Sometimes I need to see myself through his eyes in order to be a better father.
He is definitely a lot like I was as a child. A love of LEGO, playing outdoors, video games and movies are all things I enjoyed as well. I never knew how much I wanted a son until we had him. He is one of the greatest joys I have in my life.
Happy Birthday Theory!
Everyone who is alive has a birthday. However, not every birthday gets a grandiose celebration. And that’s ok.
Today is our middle child’s 14th Birthday. We are just doing a casual dinner and giving her a couple of gifts. No big party or anything. Just a little bit of recognition. Next weekend she wants to take a couple of her friends bowling. I’ll be taking her because my wife doesn’t like bowling. A carload of young teens laughing and singing is always a treat.
I hope she understands that not every birthday is a crazy gala event. Sometimes that’s hard to explain this to a teenager/ child, especially when movies and tv shows portray things differently.
I think her birthday will still be special in its own way. It’s having her around that is the best gift. She always makes us smile and laugh. These first fourteen years have just flown by. I still remember her being so tiny that I could cradle her on the length of my arm. I miss that little baby some days. But I love who she is growing up to be.
Happy Birthday Darwin.
I’m not crying. You’re crying.