Back in the summer of 1998 a friend of mine dubbed it “Revival ’98”. Mostly because we were reliving each year over and over. Nothing was changing. We all drank and smoked. Stayed up late at night watching Quentin Tarantino films and playing video games.
No cared about future plans except who’s place we’d hang out at. Even then, we sometimes stayed out all night under street lights playing hackysack. We discussed philosophy and world events. Thinking we had all the answers.
That was ‘98. Relived over and over since ‘95. But it all ended. No real reason. We just slowly drifted apart. Life has a way of doing this, and that’s okay.
Over the past few years, I have met up with most of my friends individually from back then for an evening of reminiscing. Then we go our separate ways, each of us happy to have had a moment to talk of old times and old friends. Recently on Facebook, one of these old friends is trying to get a camping trip going for the end of next summer. Of course everyone is showing interest now, but will we meet up again? Who knows? We all have lives to live. But it would be nice to let loose for a night and joke around like we did all those years ago.
I still have my hackysack ready at a moments notice.
The memories of my late teens and early twenties were kind of a mash up of crazy adventures and avoiding trouble. It’s odd to look back on your life and see how much you’ve changed and far you’ve gotten. Sometimes all it takes is a flash from the past to bring clarity into your journey. Last night I met up with an old friend whom I hadn’t seen in about 15 years. He lives 2000 kilometers away from me now, but our schedules allowed for an evening of some one-on-one time.
There was the usual pleasantries & greetings- talking about life and what we were up to. Then, the conversation went to discussing our different paths in life since the last time we saw each other. We tried to figure out why we stopped hanging out, but couldn’t pinpoint the exact reason. Was it school? Was it friends? Perhaps it was moving to another area? Maybe it was a combination of all of these things.
We spoke about the hardships, the challenges, the choices, the successes and failures we each endured over the past few years. No judgements being passed, no pissing matches, and above all, no bullshit.
Stalking sounds so harsh…
We also spoke about old friends, trying to figure out what they were doing now. Almost like gossip, but more just sharing the good things that were happening to those we once knew.
The strange thing is, as we spoke, it felt like we were close friends who still spoke everyday. (We are in constant contact through Facebook, but that’s no replacement for a face to face meet up.) We laughed and joked like we did years ago. At one point we said the same sentence at the same time- as if our brains reached into the backs of our minds and pulled from our memories our old personalities.
It was real and it was fun. I look forward to seeing him again, and hopefully it doesn’t take another fifteen years.